I find it very funny how our minds work sometimes.
Like, why do we feel like something is right when it’s totally wrong?
Why do we do the things that we know we aren’t supposed to be doing?
Why do we rather listen to the ones who are only playing with our minds instead of those who have actual experience in life?
Okay, so I was telling my friend this yesterday and I said this to him:
“Girls are so hypocritical sometimes. Like, why is it okay for us to say that we want a guy with abs and a perfect jawline, etc. and why is a guy a douchebag when he says he likes girls that have big boobs or a big butt?
That doesn’t make any sense to me anymore, it’s just so hypocritical of us to do that or say that.”
I continued this by saying:
“For real, that’s not how it’s supposed to go down. God will put someone in your life for you to spend the rest of your life with and they may not be the person you wanted, but they’re going to end up being the one that will love and care for you better than anyone. People have got to start changing their way of thinking.”
But this wasn’t all of my thoughts, only a part of it that I wanted to share with my friend. And I don’t want to say that what I said goes for every single girl out there, it’s just in general.
I also find it very hypocritical of boys to, for example, like a model in a bikini and praise her for it, but when a girl they know, whom they aren’t attractive to, decides to wear a nice bikini that fits them well, boys shame them for feeling confident in their bodies.
And again, this is just in general.
We have a way of thinking sometimes that just gets the best of us. We don’t think “Oh, I just want a nice guy/girl who will treat me good and I can spend the rest of my life with.” NO. We don’t do that. We prefer saying “ I want a guy/girl with beautiful blue eyes and blonde/brunette hair.”
We are more focused on the image of the person then the personality. How many times have I seen friends of mine get themselves in a relationship because the person they’re with is attractive, but then they break-up because 1) they barely knew each other and 2) they’re personalities weren’t what they expected it to be.
And I’m not going to tell you that I haven’t thought about what my future partner would look like or be like, because then I’d be lying. But it’s just now that I’ve realized what it all means and what it could turn into.
Just like we want people to see us for who we are, we have to do the same with others.
I don’t ever want to hear someone say “oh, I’m a 6 so I need to find someone who’s a 10.”
Heck no! Forget that. You are and always will be a freaking 10 no matter what the heck people want to think of you. Everyone is a 10 in my opinion. Even the ones who doubt themselves, the ones who make mistakes, those who think low or high of others, those who are in rough paths. No matter what it may be, don’t forget that.
I’m sounding so cheesy and cutesy, but please just remember what I just told you. It’s so important for us to be humble and think differently. Life is evolving so fast and it distracts us from keeping our feet on the ground.
You see what life is turning into every day. Take the music industry for example. Some musician are so caught up in the fame that they forget to keep feet on the ground, they start becoming the people you never thought they would become.
Don’t lose your balance, don’t lose faith and most important of all… don’t lose yourself in all of this madness of the world.
“ Your opinion about me does not change who I am. I am God’s special possession”
-Lailah Gifty Akita
“The victory of our inner self is a daily struggle. Be strong and do not give up”
-Lailah Gifty Akita